She Went on Vacation and Never Came Home

Some stories stop you in your tracks. Not because they're shocking in the way that headlines are designed to shock you — but because they feel close. Too close. Like something that could happen to anyone you know. Anyone you love. This week on Sharing with Mel I covered three stories that each hit differently — but it was Denisha Delancy's story that I could not stop thinking about long after I finished recording.

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A Birthday Trip That Ended in Tragedy

Denisha Delancy was 29 years old. She traveled to Sint Maarten — a Caribbean island — with her sister and a friend to celebrate her sister's birthday. It was their first time on the island. They were doing exactly what you and I would do on vacation. Going out. Meeting people. Enjoying themselves.

On their first night out they went to a nightclub where they met a man named Quincy Damon Sylvester. He was friendly, accommodating, showed them a good time. When the night ended Denisha's sister and friend went back to their Airbnb with their private driver. Denisha stayed with the man they had met.

Hours later their driver called to check on them. And that's when everything changed. Quincy Damon Sylvester — who investigators later identified as a suspected drug lord with ties to Caribbean criminal networks — had been gunned down in his vehicle. And Denisha was with him. She was not the target. She had no idea who this man was or what he was involved in. She was simply in the wrong place at the wrong time. A violent, senseless, tragic wrong place at the wrong time.

She went on vacation to celebrate her sister's birthday. She came home in a casket.

The Internet's Response

What happened next was unfortunately predictable. Instead of leading with grief for a 29-year-old woman whose life was cut short on what was supposed to be a joyful trip — a significant portion of the internet's response was to put Denisha on trial. Why did she leave her group? Why did she stay with a stranger? Why didn't she go back with her sister?

And I understand the impulse. When something terrible happens we want to find the thing that could have prevented it because that makes us feel safer. If we can identify the mistake then we can tell ourselves we would never make that same mistake. But that impulse — while human — can turn into something really ugly really fast. And in Denisha's case it did.

Here is what I know as a woman who travels constantly. Solo. With friends. Internationally. All over the world. I know what it feels like to be in a foreign place and let your guard down a little because you're on vacation and you're trying to live your life. I have met people in those moments who became some of my closest friends. That is not recklessness. That is being human.

Denisha did not know who Quincy Damon Sylvester was. The people who targeted him did not care who was sitting next to him. She was innocent. Full stop.

The Conversation Worth Having

None of this means we shouldn't talk about travel safety. We absolutely should. Know where you're going. Research the destination. Keep your group together as much as possible. Have a plan. Share your location. Those things matter and they are worth saying out loud.

But there is a significant difference between having that conversation and using it to assign blame to a woman who is no longer here to defend herself. One is protective. The other is cruel. And too much of what circulated online about Denisha leaned toward the latter.

She was a young woman from Liberty City in Miami. People who loved her described her as vibrant, joyful, and full of life. She loved to travel. She loved to have fun. She was on a birthday trip with her sister. That is the story. That is who she was.

Rest in peace Denisha. You deserved so much better.

This recap also gets into the quiet government move to automatically register men for the draft — and why I have a real problem with anyone being forced into a war they never chose. And yes, I also tried my best to explain what "you the birthday" means. As a millennial doing her absolute best to keep up. Watch the full video above and let me know which story hit different for you.